Reasons of statements

Hi again, remember what we talked about the last post?
Let me reveal the answer today!


Clearing the path
What stands in your way? To see where you're at on the "Should i?/Shouldn't i?" spectrum, ask yourself which, if any of the following statements you agree with.

1 It's greedy to want too much.
2 I should be thinking more about other people instead of wanting more for myself.
3 The fact is "Life's a bitch" - you can't change that!
4 Life isn't about enjoying yourself; it's about learning lessons
5 It isn't very spiritual to focus on what one wants
6 I'm not clever or talented enough to get what i want.
7 I'm not beautiful/handsome enough to get what i want.
8 I'm not rich enough to get what i want.
9 I don't have the time to work towards what i want.
10 I'm too lazy to get what i want
11 If i got what i wanted i might lose my friends and/or my familiars surroundings.
12 I just don't know how to get what i want.
13 I've always been thwarted in the past.
14 I just don't know what i want.


Have you thought of which sentence you agree and not agree?
Then have you thought of the reason why?
hmm...
let's see!


Greedy? If you agreed with statement one, you are probably reacting to something imposed on you by your upbringing or culture. This begs the question of what is "too much". Nothing that you want that is not at someone else expense is "too much". Being greedy is having more than you can deal with and enjoy - that is unlikely to be your situation! Please rest assured that having what you want can also do other the power of good as you will more to give, from smiles to hard cash. While some resources in the world are finite, that does not mean, in essence, that bounty is limited. Besides, there are many different sorts of bounty and not everyone wants the same. As your bounty increases, your satisfaction will spiral outwards - believe it!


Selfish? If you agreed with statement two, then some of the comments from the previous paragraph also apply to yo. Why are you less worthy of your own attentions than other people? How are you less worthy of your own attentions than other people? How are others really going to experience you of you think only about them? How are others really going to experience you if you think only about them? How can you be sure what everyone wants? Will the world be saved by your martyrdom? And who might, in fact, prosper from your happiness and good fortune? Safety experts advise us always to fasten our own lifebelt first, because without that in place not only is our ability to help others limited, but we may also be a danger to them.


Life is about learning lessons? If you agreed with statement four, why should the two be mutually exclusive? Must it always be the stick, and not a carrot? The idea that some divine power insists that we learn through pain is quite pervasive, and yet educationalists and people involved in management increasingly and acknowledge that rewards work better than threats. Bad things often do teach us, but they do not have to be the sole point of life.


Not gifted - and/or Coping with too many demands? Agreeing with any of statement 6, 7, 8 and 9 implies that you have to have something in the first place before you can get what you want. If that is the case, you need to get the intermediate requirement - or realise that it is not relevant. Feeling that we are not clever or good-looking enough is usually a manifestation of lack of self-esteem. It can also be an excuse for giving up. Extreme good looks are only a requirement i you will settle for nothing less than being a top model. If you really do not have the appearance for that, is there some else you could do (apart from extensive plastic surgery!) that would bring you the same fulfilment? What is it about modelling that seems so wonderful? For the vast majority of others roes, attention to presentation and manner will work wonders. As for talent, it is rare for a person to dream about something for which the have absolutely no aptitude, for it is often the aptitude that gives rise to the yearning. So concentrate on developing your existing talents and brushing up on your education. Even if it seems you have no time, there are probably many things you do during the day that are far less important than achieving your heart's desire, so stand back and exercise your choice in your life.

Lazy? Agreed with statement 10? Then give yourself a pat on your back for your honesty! Now ask yourself if you are happier if you are happier being lazy - maybe you are one of those easy-going people who are easily satisfied in life. Or maybe you were told so often as a child that you were lazy that you now believe it. Ask yourself what being lazy really means. If you are truly dissatisfied by your lack of motivation and action then you need to tackle this first, in small ways, before doing anything bigger. For instance, if you are a true couch potato then get in the habit of taking a ten-minute walk each day before attempting anymore demanding physical projects.

Afraid of Changes and the Reactions of others? A "yes" to statement 11 denotes a real fear of change and the destructive aspects of envy. Consider that if your friends are not the sort to delight in your success then you need better friends (see Chapter5). Consider also that a little envy can spur people on to better things and some of your mates might thank you for widening their horizons. Read through theses phases:
- Feel the fear and do it anyway
- Don't let your fears stand in the way of your dreams
- Better to regret what you have done than what you have not done
- change is the only constant

Make one of these your motto, and start by making small changes until you feel comfortable with the idea.

If life seems scary to you and uncertainty bodes ill, instead of offering possibilities for improvement, something or someone has made you fear the process of life. Pure logic is unlikely to have much effect against such angst. However, you can fight - and win - a few skirmishes by being open to new things on a day-to-day level, such as going to new places, trying new food and so on.

Can't take the first step? Did your response to statement 12 reveal that you just don't know how to get what you want? Have you ever heard the saying "if you wander around in enough bewilderment you will soon find enlightenment"? The trick is to wander around and not to stay rooted to the spot! Holding in your mind as clear as an image of what you want as possible, start networking, asking questions, making questions, making phone calls, reading anyting you can and watching anything you can that will give you some clues. Ask people who have got what you want, or at least part of it - successful people, providing they feel secure, are often only too pleased to tell other people how to find their own fulfilment. If you know you have a talent, put it on display, and let as many people see it and know about it as you can, because you never know which contact is going pay off.

Braced for frustration? If you have always been thwarted in the past, then you have become programmed for failure. You may not be aware of just how you are setting yourself up for it. You may not aware of just how you are setting yourself up for it. You may feel that you are doing your best. But all the while your inner voice is saying you can't win, and without realising it you are surely doing little things, making little gestures, using a tone of voice that sends out loser signals. This is the first day of the rest of your life!

Haven't a clue? Finally, if you don't know what you want, your situation is complex. While a happy happenstance may well come along and drop you right into your niche, it is also true that it is hard to hit the target if you don't know what - or where - it is. Possibly you are pretty contented person with relaxed and playful attitude to life. In that case you will, in all probability, wind up where you want to be - and then recognise it1 However, if you are conscious of considerable discontent then it is quite probable that in some way you feel disempowered. Your subconscious mind may be telling you that you can't win, so what is the point of identifying a goal? Maybe you are avoiding the pain of possible failure by telling yourself you don't want anything. Maybe you arguing yourself out of ambitions before they are fully formed. Often when people ask themselves what they want they go over half a dozen or so goals that they'd "quite like" or think they ought to want, before admitting what really lights their fire - something they have almost given up because it seems so unreasonable. Or if you simply aren't sure, then maybe you need more information about life and what is on offer - this may be the case if you are quite young. Cast your net as wide as you like to see what you catch. Maybe you do not need a definite directions yet.


At this point you hopefully you have a better idea of your basic dynamism and the things you feel stand in your way. Hope this post can let your mind be clear of what you are thinking.

Cheers!