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Thursday, January 22, 2009
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
Reasons of statements
Hi again, remember what we talked about the last post?
Let me reveal the answer today!
Clearing the path
What stands in your way? To see where you're at on the "Should i?/Shouldn't i?" spectrum, ask yourself which, if any of the following statements you agree with.
1 It's greedy to want too much.
2 I should be thinking more about other people instead of wanting more for myself.
3 The fact is "Life's a bitch" - you can't change that!
4 Life isn't about enjoying yourself; it's about learning lessons
5 It isn't very spiritual to focus on what one wants
6 I'm not clever or talented enough to get what i want.
7 I'm not beautiful/handsome enough to get what i want.
8 I'm not rich enough to get what i want.
9 I don't have the time to work towards what i want.
10 I'm too lazy to get what i want
11 If i got what i wanted i might lose my friends and/or my familiars surroundings.
12 I just don't know how to get what i want.
13 I've always been thwarted in the past.
14 I just don't know what i want.
Have you thought of which sentence you agree and not agree?
Then have you thought of the reason why?
hmm...
let's see!
Greedy? If you agreed with statement one, you are probably reacting to something imposed on you by your upbringing or culture. This begs the question of what is "too much". Nothing that you want that is not at someone else expense is "too much". Being greedy is having more than you can deal with and enjoy - that is unlikely to be your situation! Please rest assured that having what you want can also do other the power of good as you will more to give, from smiles to hard cash. While some resources in the world are finite, that does not mean, in essence, that bounty is limited. Besides, there are many different sorts of bounty and not everyone wants the same. As your bounty increases, your satisfaction will spiral outwards - believe it!
Selfish? If you agreed with statement two, then some of the comments from the previous paragraph also apply to yo. Why are you less worthy of your own attentions than other people? How are you less worthy of your own attentions than other people? How are others really going to experience you of you think only about them? How are others really going to experience you if you think only about them? How can you be sure what everyone wants? Will the world be saved by your martyrdom? And who might, in fact, prosper from your happiness and good fortune? Safety experts advise us always to fasten our own lifebelt first, because without that in place not only is our ability to help others limited, but we may also be a danger to them.
Life is about learning lessons? If you agreed with statement four, why should the two be mutually exclusive? Must it always be the stick, and not a carrot? The idea that some divine power insists that we learn through pain is quite pervasive, and yet educationalists and people involved in management increasingly and acknowledge that rewards work better than threats. Bad things often do teach us, but they do not have to be the sole point of life.
Not gifted - and/or Coping with too many demands? Agreeing with any of statement 6, 7, 8 and 9 implies that you have to have something in the first place before you can get what you want. If that is the case, you need to get the intermediate requirement - or realise that it is not relevant. Feeling that we are not clever or good-looking enough is usually a manifestation of lack of self-esteem. It can also be an excuse for giving up. Extreme good looks are only a requirement i you will settle for nothing less than being a top model. If you really do not have the appearance for that, is there some else you could do (apart from extensive plastic surgery!) that would bring you the same fulfilment? What is it about modelling that seems so wonderful? For the vast majority of others roes, attention to presentation and manner will work wonders. As for talent, it is rare for a person to dream about something for which the have absolutely no aptitude, for it is often the aptitude that gives rise to the yearning. So concentrate on developing your existing talents and brushing up on your education. Even if it seems you have no time, there are probably many things you do during the day that are far less important than achieving your heart's desire, so stand back and exercise your choice in your life.
Lazy? Agreed with statement 10? Then give yourself a pat on your back for your honesty! Now ask yourself if you are happier if you are happier being lazy - maybe you are one of those easy-going people who are easily satisfied in life. Or maybe you were told so often as a child that you were lazy that you now believe it. Ask yourself what being lazy really means. If you are truly dissatisfied by your lack of motivation and action then you need to tackle this first, in small ways, before doing anything bigger. For instance, if you are a true couch potato then get in the habit of taking a ten-minute walk each day before attempting anymore demanding physical projects.
Afraid of Changes and the Reactions of others? A "yes" to statement 11 denotes a real fear of change and the destructive aspects of envy. Consider that if your friends are not the sort to delight in your success then you need better friends (see Chapter5). Consider also that a little envy can spur people on to better things and some of your mates might thank you for widening their horizons. Read through theses phases:
- Feel the fear and do it anyway
- Don't let your fears stand in the way of your dreams
- Better to regret what you have done than what you have not done
- change is the only constant
Make one of these your motto, and start by making small changes until you feel comfortable with the idea.
If life seems scary to you and uncertainty bodes ill, instead of offering possibilities for improvement, something or someone has made you fear the process of life. Pure logic is unlikely to have much effect against such angst. However, you can fight - and win - a few skirmishes by being open to new things on a day-to-day level, such as going to new places, trying new food and so on.
Can't take the first step? Did your response to statement 12 reveal that you just don't know how to get what you want? Have you ever heard the saying "if you wander around in enough bewilderment you will soon find enlightenment"? The trick is to wander around and not to stay rooted to the spot! Holding in your mind as clear as an image of what you want as possible, start networking, asking questions, making questions, making phone calls, reading anyting you can and watching anything you can that will give you some clues. Ask people who have got what you want, or at least part of it - successful people, providing they feel secure, are often only too pleased to tell other people how to find their own fulfilment. If you know you have a talent, put it on display, and let as many people see it and know about it as you can, because you never know which contact is going pay off.
Braced for frustration? If you have always been thwarted in the past, then you have become programmed for failure. You may not be aware of just how you are setting yourself up for it. You may not aware of just how you are setting yourself up for it. You may feel that you are doing your best. But all the while your inner voice is saying you can't win, and without realising it you are surely doing little things, making little gestures, using a tone of voice that sends out loser signals. This is the first day of the rest of your life!
Haven't a clue? Finally, if you don't know what you want, your situation is complex. While a happy happenstance may well come along and drop you right into your niche, it is also true that it is hard to hit the target if you don't know what - or where - it is. Possibly you are pretty contented person with relaxed and playful attitude to life. In that case you will, in all probability, wind up where you want to be - and then recognise it1 However, if you are conscious of considerable discontent then it is quite probable that in some way you feel disempowered. Your subconscious mind may be telling you that you can't win, so what is the point of identifying a goal? Maybe you are avoiding the pain of possible failure by telling yourself you don't want anything. Maybe you arguing yourself out of ambitions before they are fully formed. Often when people ask themselves what they want they go over half a dozen or so goals that they'd "quite like" or think they ought to want, before admitting what really lights their fire - something they have almost given up because it seems so unreasonable. Or if you simply aren't sure, then maybe you need more information about life and what is on offer - this may be the case if you are quite young. Cast your net as wide as you like to see what you catch. Maybe you do not need a definite directions yet.
At this point you hopefully you have a better idea of your basic dynamism and the things you feel stand in your way. Hope this post can let your mind be clear of what you are thinking.
Cheers!
Let me reveal the answer today!
Clearing the path
What stands in your way? To see where you're at on the "Should i?/Shouldn't i?" spectrum, ask yourself which, if any of the following statements you agree with.
1 It's greedy to want too much.
2 I should be thinking more about other people instead of wanting more for myself.
3 The fact is "Life's a bitch" - you can't change that!
4 Life isn't about enjoying yourself; it's about learning lessons
5 It isn't very spiritual to focus on what one wants
6 I'm not clever or talented enough to get what i want.
7 I'm not beautiful/handsome enough to get what i want.
8 I'm not rich enough to get what i want.
9 I don't have the time to work towards what i want.
10 I'm too lazy to get what i want
11 If i got what i wanted i might lose my friends and/or my familiars surroundings.
12 I just don't know how to get what i want.
13 I've always been thwarted in the past.
14 I just don't know what i want.
Have you thought of which sentence you agree and not agree?
Then have you thought of the reason why?
hmm...
let's see!
Greedy? If you agreed with statement one, you are probably reacting to something imposed on you by your upbringing or culture. This begs the question of what is "too much". Nothing that you want that is not at someone else expense is "too much". Being greedy is having more than you can deal with and enjoy - that is unlikely to be your situation! Please rest assured that having what you want can also do other the power of good as you will more to give, from smiles to hard cash. While some resources in the world are finite, that does not mean, in essence, that bounty is limited. Besides, there are many different sorts of bounty and not everyone wants the same. As your bounty increases, your satisfaction will spiral outwards - believe it!
Selfish? If you agreed with statement two, then some of the comments from the previous paragraph also apply to yo. Why are you less worthy of your own attentions than other people? How are you less worthy of your own attentions than other people? How are others really going to experience you of you think only about them? How are others really going to experience you if you think only about them? How can you be sure what everyone wants? Will the world be saved by your martyrdom? And who might, in fact, prosper from your happiness and good fortune? Safety experts advise us always to fasten our own lifebelt first, because without that in place not only is our ability to help others limited, but we may also be a danger to them.
Life is about learning lessons? If you agreed with statement four, why should the two be mutually exclusive? Must it always be the stick, and not a carrot? The idea that some divine power insists that we learn through pain is quite pervasive, and yet educationalists and people involved in management increasingly and acknowledge that rewards work better than threats. Bad things often do teach us, but they do not have to be the sole point of life.
Not gifted - and/or Coping with too many demands? Agreeing with any of statement 6, 7, 8 and 9 implies that you have to have something in the first place before you can get what you want. If that is the case, you need to get the intermediate requirement - or realise that it is not relevant. Feeling that we are not clever or good-looking enough is usually a manifestation of lack of self-esteem. It can also be an excuse for giving up. Extreme good looks are only a requirement i you will settle for nothing less than being a top model. If you really do not have the appearance for that, is there some else you could do (apart from extensive plastic surgery!) that would bring you the same fulfilment? What is it about modelling that seems so wonderful? For the vast majority of others roes, attention to presentation and manner will work wonders. As for talent, it is rare for a person to dream about something for which the have absolutely no aptitude, for it is often the aptitude that gives rise to the yearning. So concentrate on developing your existing talents and brushing up on your education. Even if it seems you have no time, there are probably many things you do during the day that are far less important than achieving your heart's desire, so stand back and exercise your choice in your life.
Lazy? Agreed with statement 10? Then give yourself a pat on your back for your honesty! Now ask yourself if you are happier if you are happier being lazy - maybe you are one of those easy-going people who are easily satisfied in life. Or maybe you were told so often as a child that you were lazy that you now believe it. Ask yourself what being lazy really means. If you are truly dissatisfied by your lack of motivation and action then you need to tackle this first, in small ways, before doing anything bigger. For instance, if you are a true couch potato then get in the habit of taking a ten-minute walk each day before attempting anymore demanding physical projects.
Afraid of Changes and the Reactions of others? A "yes" to statement 11 denotes a real fear of change and the destructive aspects of envy. Consider that if your friends are not the sort to delight in your success then you need better friends (see Chapter5). Consider also that a little envy can spur people on to better things and some of your mates might thank you for widening their horizons. Read through theses phases:
- Feel the fear and do it anyway
- Don't let your fears stand in the way of your dreams
- Better to regret what you have done than what you have not done
- change is the only constant
Make one of these your motto, and start by making small changes until you feel comfortable with the idea.
If life seems scary to you and uncertainty bodes ill, instead of offering possibilities for improvement, something or someone has made you fear the process of life. Pure logic is unlikely to have much effect against such angst. However, you can fight - and win - a few skirmishes by being open to new things on a day-to-day level, such as going to new places, trying new food and so on.
Can't take the first step? Did your response to statement 12 reveal that you just don't know how to get what you want? Have you ever heard the saying "if you wander around in enough bewilderment you will soon find enlightenment"? The trick is to wander around and not to stay rooted to the spot! Holding in your mind as clear as an image of what you want as possible, start networking, asking questions, making questions, making phone calls, reading anyting you can and watching anything you can that will give you some clues. Ask people who have got what you want, or at least part of it - successful people, providing they feel secure, are often only too pleased to tell other people how to find their own fulfilment. If you know you have a talent, put it on display, and let as many people see it and know about it as you can, because you never know which contact is going pay off.
Braced for frustration? If you have always been thwarted in the past, then you have become programmed for failure. You may not be aware of just how you are setting yourself up for it. You may not aware of just how you are setting yourself up for it. You may feel that you are doing your best. But all the while your inner voice is saying you can't win, and without realising it you are surely doing little things, making little gestures, using a tone of voice that sends out loser signals. This is the first day of the rest of your life!
Haven't a clue? Finally, if you don't know what you want, your situation is complex. While a happy happenstance may well come along and drop you right into your niche, it is also true that it is hard to hit the target if you don't know what - or where - it is. Possibly you are pretty contented person with relaxed and playful attitude to life. In that case you will, in all probability, wind up where you want to be - and then recognise it1 However, if you are conscious of considerable discontent then it is quite probable that in some way you feel disempowered. Your subconscious mind may be telling you that you can't win, so what is the point of identifying a goal? Maybe you are avoiding the pain of possible failure by telling yourself you don't want anything. Maybe you arguing yourself out of ambitions before they are fully formed. Often when people ask themselves what they want they go over half a dozen or so goals that they'd "quite like" or think they ought to want, before admitting what really lights their fire - something they have almost given up because it seems so unreasonable. Or if you simply aren't sure, then maybe you need more information about life and what is on offer - this may be the case if you are quite young. Cast your net as wide as you like to see what you catch. Maybe you do not need a definite directions yet.
At this point you hopefully you have a better idea of your basic dynamism and the things you feel stand in your way. Hope this post can let your mind be clear of what you are thinking.
Cheers!
Monday, January 12, 2009
late update
sorry for the late coming updat.
Have been busy with my work and stuffs.
Will update soon, do come back to check!!
(:
Have been busy with my work and stuffs.
Will update soon, do come back to check!!
(:
Sunday, January 11, 2009
Ringing the changes and Clearing the paths
The chances are, you would like to change something - or many things - in your life. You may know what these are, or you may have only a general feeling that something isn't right. Maybe you reason yourself out of those feelings with arguments like "why should i be different? We all know life isn't perfect. Look at the starving millions..." etc.
Most of us say these things. More often than not such arguments arise from our own feelings of unworthiness and guilt and fear of failure - and let's face it, our laziness! Before the first step on the road to the rest of your life, identify and clear away some of your own self-imposed obstacles.
Clearing the path
What stands in your way? To see where you're at on the "Should i?/Shouldn't i?" spectrum, ask yourself which, if any of the following statements you agree with.
1 It's greedy to want too much.
2 I should be thinking more about other people instead of wanting more for myself.
3 The fact is "Life's a bitch" - you can't change that!
4 Life isn't about enjoying yourself; it's about learning lessons
5 It isn't very spiritual to focus on what one wants
6 I'm not clever or talented enough to get what i want.
7 I'm not beautiful/handsome enough to get what i want.
8 I'm not rich enough to get what i want.
9 I don't have the time to work towards what i want.
10 I'm too lazy to get what i want
11 If i got what i wanted i might lose my friends and/or my familiars surroundings.
12 I just don't know how to get what i want.
13 I've always been thwarted in the past.
14 I just don't know what i want.
Now look at these 14 statements, which have you agree and not agree?
Next post we will be looking to see where these statements arise and why none of them are valid!
Most of us say these things. More often than not such arguments arise from our own feelings of unworthiness and guilt and fear of failure - and let's face it, our laziness! Before the first step on the road to the rest of your life, identify and clear away some of your own self-imposed obstacles.
Clearing the path
What stands in your way? To see where you're at on the "Should i?/Shouldn't i?" spectrum, ask yourself which, if any of the following statements you agree with.
1 It's greedy to want too much.
2 I should be thinking more about other people instead of wanting more for myself.
3 The fact is "Life's a bitch" - you can't change that!
4 Life isn't about enjoying yourself; it's about learning lessons
5 It isn't very spiritual to focus on what one wants
6 I'm not clever or talented enough to get what i want.
7 I'm not beautiful/handsome enough to get what i want.
8 I'm not rich enough to get what i want.
9 I don't have the time to work towards what i want.
10 I'm too lazy to get what i want
11 If i got what i wanted i might lose my friends and/or my familiars surroundings.
12 I just don't know how to get what i want.
13 I've always been thwarted in the past.
14 I just don't know what i want.
Now look at these 14 statements, which have you agree and not agree?
Next post we will be looking to see where these statements arise and why none of them are valid!
Questionaire
As mention at previous post, today's post would be about to gauge your attitude to working on your life.
So let us start now?
Question 1
You walk downstairs in the morning to see a single letter lying face down on the mat. The first thing that goes through your mind is:
a) Interesting news,
b) More junk mail,
c) Another bill.
Question 2
On the way to work you are caught in the traffic. You use the time to:
a) Listen to your Teach-Yourself tape,
b) Listen to music or phone a mate,
c) Get steamed up and frantic.
Question 3
When you arrive at work your boss has new assignment for you. How do you react?
a) Great! A new challenge gets me interested,
b) Oh, well, it'll soon be five-thirty,
c) Oh no! No something else to get my head round!
Question 4
Someone new moves in over the way, so you:
a) Go over and say "Hi" - they could turn out to be a good friend,
b) Won't bother them, and they won't bother you,
c) Hope they aren't going park their car over your drive.
Question 5
At your favourite restaurant your usual meal is unavailable:
a) You don't have your usual meal,
b) You dither a bit and let someone choose for you.
c) Your evening is spoilt.
Question 6
You need something extra-special to wear for an important occasion:
a) You keep looking until you find something spot-on,
b) You buy the first reasonable thing you try on,
c) Something in your wardrobe will probably do.
Question 7
You are quite sure that a course now being offered will lead to the career of your dreams, but going on it means taking a considerable drop in salary for a while:
a) You don't hesitate - this is a means to better things,
b) You aren't sure what to do and ask every one's advice,
c) You feel resentful that you have to manage on less and decide not to do the course.
Question 8
A friend sets you up with a blind date, but you hear from a third party that the date is a boring no-hoper:
a) You go along, without bothering much, expecting it to be a dead loss,
c) You cancel the date.
Question 9
Your principal thought when sold a raffle ticket is:
a) I might win!
b) Oh well, it's in a good cause,
c) I suppose I must.
Question 10
Your attitude to your health is:
a) It's up to me to keep as healthy as i can,
b) One day I'm going to sort out my lifestyle...,
c) Health is most genetic.
Question 11
Here comes that bank statement, so you think:
a) It's up to me to make sure i get the money i need,
b) I can't seem to get to grips with money,
c) I'm just unlucky - I never can seem to earn enough.
Question 12
Day-today life is very stressful, so you:
a) Do things that help you relax, from meditating to working out,
b) Slob our whenever you can,
c) Feel unable to relax with all the demands made on you.
*Below is the score*
*finish this questionnaire before you view the answers!*
Your Score:
Mostly A:
You don't need to be told that you're pretty dynamic person. You tend to look on the bright side and you make the most of your opportunities. Perhaps your greatest asset is your sense of responsibility. You feel you have the power to make changes; or if you don't, you're prepared to find out how. Make sure you keep realistic goals in mind.
Mostly B:
You can be a tad apathetic at times. It isn't necessarily that you can't be bothered, but often that you feel confused. It seems easier to take the line of least resistance. But is this easiest in the long run? Perhaps if you take the time to find out what you want and how to get it you will find things a lot easier.
Mostly C:
What has made you so negative? You can have much more effect on your life if you will only believe that you can do so. Your expectations of worst are a self-fulfilling prophecy - and yet you probably feel, deep down, that this does not have to be. Start by making small changes - what have you got to lose?
So after the questionnaire and answers, how do you feel?
Feel free to share your views here or can even email me.
Hope to get some comments or email from people soon.
So let us start now?
Question 1
You walk downstairs in the morning to see a single letter lying face down on the mat. The first thing that goes through your mind is:
a) Interesting news,
b) More junk mail,
c) Another bill.
Question 2
On the way to work you are caught in the traffic. You use the time to:
a) Listen to your Teach-Yourself tape,
b) Listen to music or phone a mate,
c) Get steamed up and frantic.
Question 3
When you arrive at work your boss has new assignment for you. How do you react?
a) Great! A new challenge gets me interested,
b) Oh, well, it'll soon be five-thirty,
c) Oh no! No something else to get my head round!
Question 4
Someone new moves in over the way, so you:
a) Go over and say "Hi" - they could turn out to be a good friend,
b) Won't bother them, and they won't bother you,
c) Hope they aren't going park their car over your drive.
Question 5
At your favourite restaurant your usual meal is unavailable:
a) You don't have your usual meal,
b) You dither a bit and let someone choose for you.
c) Your evening is spoilt.
Question 6
You need something extra-special to wear for an important occasion:
a) You keep looking until you find something spot-on,
b) You buy the first reasonable thing you try on,
c) Something in your wardrobe will probably do.
Question 7
You are quite sure that a course now being offered will lead to the career of your dreams, but going on it means taking a considerable drop in salary for a while:
a) You don't hesitate - this is a means to better things,
b) You aren't sure what to do and ask every one's advice,
c) You feel resentful that you have to manage on less and decide not to do the course.
Question 8
A friend sets you up with a blind date, but you hear from a third party that the date is a boring no-hoper:
a) You go along, without bothering much, expecting it to be a dead loss,
c) You cancel the date.
Question 9
Your principal thought when sold a raffle ticket is:
a) I might win!
b) Oh well, it's in a good cause,
c) I suppose I must.
Question 10
Your attitude to your health is:
a) It's up to me to keep as healthy as i can,
b) One day I'm going to sort out my lifestyle...,
c) Health is most genetic.
Question 11
Here comes that bank statement, so you think:
a) It's up to me to make sure i get the money i need,
b) I can't seem to get to grips with money,
c) I'm just unlucky - I never can seem to earn enough.
Question 12
Day-today life is very stressful, so you:
a) Do things that help you relax, from meditating to working out,
b) Slob our whenever you can,
c) Feel unable to relax with all the demands made on you.
*Below is the score*
*finish this questionnaire before you view the answers!*
Your Score:
Mostly A:
You don't need to be told that you're pretty dynamic person. You tend to look on the bright side and you make the most of your opportunities. Perhaps your greatest asset is your sense of responsibility. You feel you have the power to make changes; or if you don't, you're prepared to find out how. Make sure you keep realistic goals in mind.
Mostly B:
You can be a tad apathetic at times. It isn't necessarily that you can't be bothered, but often that you feel confused. It seems easier to take the line of least resistance. But is this easiest in the long run? Perhaps if you take the time to find out what you want and how to get it you will find things a lot easier.
Mostly C:
What has made you so negative? You can have much more effect on your life if you will only believe that you can do so. Your expectations of worst are a self-fulfilling prophecy - and yet you probably feel, deep down, that this does not have to be. Start by making small changes - what have you got to lose?
So after the questionnaire and answers, how do you feel?
Feel free to share your views here or can even email me.
Hope to get some comments or email from people soon.
Saturday, January 10, 2009
Can i be happy?
Happiness is the goal of everyone, and yet for many people it is very elusive. Many wise things have been written about "happiness". Sages tell us we cannot find it by looking at it, but we may be fortunate enough to uncover it as we look for - or struggle against - something else. Happiness means different things to different people, of course. We all have individual levels of tolerance, and there is a difference between a situation not being perfect and there being something profoundly wrong.
Happiness is, to a great extent, a matter of attitude. For many people true happiness is found only through an awareness of spiritual meaning. There is little doubt that pursuing a list if "i wants" tends not to make people happy in the long term, Pursuing fulfilment is rather a different matter, however. Being fulfilled is often a challenge, is rarely purely pleasurable, and yet it makes happiness. Becoming the "me" you meant to be is rather like a pinched rose-bud opening out into a glorious flower. It's a blessing to everyone.
I was brought up to believe that "we were not put here to enjoy ourselves" and spent so many years in confused rebellion against this that i had little idea of what i wanted to and precious little ability to have a nice time! This has made me aware of all obstacles we put in our own way and all the ways we mislead ourselves.
So how prepared are you to take bull by the horns and start making some real changes? You probably already have a fair idea of how attitude you have towards improving things.
Upcoming next tomorrow will be a questionaire which is desined to help you gauge your attitude to working on your life.
Happiness is, to a great extent, a matter of attitude. For many people true happiness is found only through an awareness of spiritual meaning. There is little doubt that pursuing a list if "i wants" tends not to make people happy in the long term, Pursuing fulfilment is rather a different matter, however. Being fulfilled is often a challenge, is rarely purely pleasurable, and yet it makes happiness. Becoming the "me" you meant to be is rather like a pinched rose-bud opening out into a glorious flower. It's a blessing to everyone.
I was brought up to believe that "we were not put here to enjoy ourselves" and spent so many years in confused rebellion against this that i had little idea of what i wanted to and precious little ability to have a nice time! This has made me aware of all obstacles we put in our own way and all the ways we mislead ourselves.
So how prepared are you to take bull by the horns and start making some real changes? You probably already have a fair idea of how attitude you have towards improving things.
Upcoming next tomorrow will be a questionaire which is desined to help you gauge your attitude to working on your life.
Friday, January 9, 2009
New Beginning!
Today's topic would be just about a very general thinking of most teenagers nowaday. It's about "Reality".
See if you would agree with me!
Let's me begin for today......
We are told that we "create our own reality", but it may be very dificult to see how this can be so in a world where we often feel powerless and overwhelmed. Being told to "think positive" can simply make us feel that everything is our fault, because we can't manage to keep a smile on our faces! It's true that life is what you make it, but that suble yet radical change of perspective may be very elusive.
Some times it is possible to overlook some very simple things when we are distressed and pressurised. Often we need to "feel understood" - and to understand ourselves - before we are able to move on.
It's important that we sort ot what's going on in our lives and inside us before we take steps in another direction.
"Reality" is a strange thing. Let us look, for example, at soemthing unpleasant (because these things by their very nature get more scurtiny than nice things!) - let us look at what happens when there is an accident.
The police take statements from observers, but it is a known fact that the people who have been on the scene will have perceived the event in many different ways, even though they were all detached bystanders. "Well". you may say, with some justifications, "that's just because some folk are more observant than others." True, but could that possibly be only part of the picture? n the first place, whether what a person has seen is totally objectively "true" or not, the impression received may radically affect their life. In the second place, could it be that "reality" isn't quite as solid as we believe?
After all, quantum physics is now showing us that the observer can actually affect the process of the experiment - for instance in the behaviour of the particles of light. By narrowing a beam of light down to a single stream, scientists have shown that photons behave differently when being watched. Does it sound incredible? We are used to science very "physical" and we are surrounded by evidence that science manipulates our surroundings in a radical and enduring fashion - and who would be other wise?
Few people would want to go back to a time without street lamps and central heating. But science may also have taken from us some of our faith in ourselves and our powers to use our imagination, widen our sope and say, "anything could happen!".
Very small shifts can give rise to immense changes. If your attitude shifts just a tiny bit, over a period of time, people will begin to react differently to you - not just your altered facial expressions and body languages, but also to something more subliminal, to presence you radiate. As their actions change, so yours will respond likewise, and a process is a set in motion, for good or ill. Sometimes what starts that process maybe something fairly small; and so from the acorn, the oak tree grows.
Remember, even a small change in you will mean that others see you differently - and this can be the start of something great!
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